‘Are you focused on the Destination or the Journey?’

The rush to nowhere…

It seems that we are all in a constant rush to get to the next step, climb the next mountain, reach the highest  pinacle, only focused on the destination at the expense of experience.  We’ve lost sight of the importance in stopping to smell the roses  and have failed to recognise what we could have gained along the way – the journey.

So what is the rush all about?  Why are we all in such a hurry? And what has been the cost to us and our families?

The clue

The answer to this question is different for everyone.  It will depends on the belief system you hold about yourself.  Beliefs that can cloud or dictate your future without you even being aware of it.  But how can you begin to  identify some of these belief systems and not allow it to dictate your moves on a day to day basis? The motivation behind our drive is the answer to our problem, which is often coloured by our own belief systems.

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The excuse

You may know of people who always have an excuse of why they are not happy in life, or maybe you may also relate to some of these common beliefs:

• I must work harder to be good (A common trap to not have enough time for what is really important in life)
• I’ll be happy when… (needing to acumulate or achieve something before happiness can be experienced – sadly it often doesn’t come until the realisation that happiness is within and not obtained from what you do or have.)
• I have no time for me because others need me (always putting other’s needs  at the expense of your own health and needs can later lead to resentment.)
• I need to prove to others that I am good enough (the key, is to accept yourself so that you disolve your need to prove yourself to others.)

It can be really hard to break old patterns and habits.  If you would like to have some professional advise, you may want to try Kinesiology as a powerful tool to assist with this process.  To fnd out more or to book,  click here.

The ‘Present’

When you are ready to let go of what is holding you back, then you are ready to receive the present!

Try a couple of simple techniques of slowing down an over active mind to help you get in touch with the present moment.

• Next time you catch yourself thinking about the future (ie Thinking about the things to cross off your to do  list whilst washing the dishes etc.), focus on the very basic task that you are currently doing and think about what that literally feels like.   (eg, If you are  washing the dishes, then notice the warmth of the water on your hands, the softness of the sponge cloth, the heaviness of the plate etc.)   Simple excercises like these will quickly get you back to the present and over time train your brain to slow down to experience the moment.  Of course there is nothing wrong with forward planning or thinking.  However, excessively (which is common) it can stop us from experiencing the basic things in life, which is often where the gift of learning is found.

• Next time you have to complete a task that is not so important, find the most slowest or longest way to do it.  Your brain might fight with you at first to get the job done fast, but persevere and take your time and see what unexpected experiences you might gain, which would have otherwise been missed.

• Allow your kids to complete a messy task at their own pace (eg cook or bake something) and hold off on taking over to avoid the mess.  Learn from them and see how they have a natural ability to connect and  live in the moment,  concerened only with the  task at hand.  Just spare a thought about how often do we rob our kids of their ‘experience’ when we try to ‘hurry’ them up?

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I’d love to hear from you if you have any stories that you would like to share about the ‘rush to nowhere’ or maybe you would like to share some tips on how to keep a busy mind quiet.  Just simply reply to my blog.